Not all dining experiences are perfect.

I have many memories of my little one having a meltdown at the dinner table because his burger wasn’t the right shape or his pasta was too yellow. I too spent years struggling with mealtimes as a child, feeling the pressure to fit in with my family. Looking back, I didn’t always like the same foods, and the dinner table highlighted that difference. I’ve often joked that if there was even a single green pea on my plate, I wouldn’t eat until it was gone! (Talk about karma for this mom!)

IT’S NOT JUST ABOUT FOOD

We all naturally want to fit in. Children, especially, need to feel they belong. While toddlers may act out at the table, it’s often about seeking connection rather than just getting attention.

Many parents, including myself, put so much energy into making mealtimes perfect. Of course, I want my children to grow up healthy. However, looking back, many of those dinner table upsets could have been avoided with less fuss.

Moments with our children are precious. Mealtimes are unique opportunities that can’t be recreated. What I’ve learned is that cherishing these moments is essential.

When we look back at old photos, isn’t it more heartwarming to see laughter and joy instead of tears and tension? A child covered in chocolate icing with a cheeky grin is much more memorable than a dining room filled with stress and tantrums. Even if the broccolli or green beans are untouched.

There is absoltely no benefit to forcing food to be enjoyed. It’s a lose lose situation. Humans or adult are not designed to assimilate nutrients if their body is under stress.

EMBRACING THE IMPERFECTIONS

The fact is, once these moments are gone, they’re gone forever. Mealtimes are snapshots of our everyday lives, so let’s fill them with joy and connection. It’s okay if things don’t go perfectly. Embrace the chaos, relish the laughter, and allow the occasional meltdown. These are the memories that will fill our hearts.

Remember, it’s not about the food—it’s about the moments we share together.